Until now, this blog has been primarily about grief, specifically about the grief a parent feels when he or she loses a child. This is a very unique kind of grief and deserves a great deal of discussion, both public and private. I have spent the last seven years exploring my personal experiences and sharing these explorations with readers. My posts have progressively gotten less frequent as I processed and learned to live with the constant ache of loss.
Now, I feel, it is time to change focus.
More accurately, it is time to change emphasis.
I began this blog for many reasons – to reach out to others experiencing the same loss, to provide a place where conversation could take place, to explore and validate my own feelings, to educate the fortunate who have no idea what losing a child is like, and as a very important form of personal therapy. I feel that it has been a success on all fronts, and for that I am pleased and grateful.
The therapeutic aspect of writing about my grief is no longer needed – at least not with the frequency it was. I can tell my fellow “club” members that if you work at it and try very hard, you can achieve a place of peace with your loss. Does the pain go away? No, never. However, you do find a way to live with it, even live in spite of it; yes, even thrive.
So, while I will continue to write about the long, long road through the ever-changing grief landscape, there are now other, more pressing issues in my life. There are other things I want to explore.
And isn’t that wonderful?
So, where are we going now? Throughout these seven years of blogging, I have also discussed my experiences with adoption. My adoption journey began out of the enormous gulf left behind when I lost my only child. There is no replacing a dead child, of course, but one can begin to fill the massive void that death created. I now have three beautiful, living daughters and am working diligently on a fourth. The emphasis going forward, therefore, will be adoption – mine, yours, thoughts, ideas, arguments, and struggles.
Rather than death and loss, now I am focusing on life – and the hope therein, just like the title says.
I invite open discussion, guest blogs, the venting of frustration, and any other related comments you feel like sharing, and I thank you for being interested enough to ready my posts!