Five years ago today

Arizona onyx headstoneFive years ago today…

Five years ago, at 7:30 a.m., I hugged my daughter and told her to drive safely.

“Ok Mom. See you at lunch time!”

Five years ago, at 11:00 a.m., two DPS officers came to my work with “something important to talk to me about, regarding my daughter.”

Five years ago, at 11:30 a.m., my friend was driving me the hour-plus drive to St. Joseph’s Hospital in Phoenix.

Five years ago, at 1 p.m., we arrived, but I wasn’t allowed to see my daughter immediately.

I had to wait….  I only knew she was in “extremely critical condition.”

Five years ago, after what seemed like an eternity, the doctor and two aides took me into a small room to tell me that my only child and the joy of my life had irreparable brain damage and a severed spine.

Five years ago today, life as I knew it ended.


Today, the pain is no less. I have simply learned how to live with it. Anniversaries make it harder, somehow. I relive that day to some extent every day, but on the anniversary of the accident, my heart breaks all over again. I miss her so.


I love you, baby….



2 comments on “Five years ago today

  1. Five years seems like an instant and an eternity. My daughter turned 18 this year and is “off” to college (here in Phoenix). I think about Ava, and hold my breath thinking about how fragile life is, and yet how resilient one can be when we are open to others. Thank you for your inspiration and example.

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