Nov 09
Pamela Cytrynbaum, author, blogger, lecturer at Northwestern University, and companion in grief, found my blog and found what I had to say interesting. She has asked me to answer a few questions and plans to share them with her readers at http://family.lifegoesstrong.com. Question: What happens when people pull away from a grieving person. How do …
Oct 07
Two months you’ve been gone from this world. … The anger that everyone talks about, that all the books and counselors say is “normal” after a loss, has nowhere to go in me. I have no place to focus this anger, so it stays inside, winding me ever tighter. I find myself short-tempered, waspish, mean-spirited. …
Jun 08
(Written July 3, 2008 – one month after the death of my daughter Ava) I just finished a book about a couple who lost their only child, “First You Die.” Like nearly everything else I have read, it indicates that this pain doesn’t “get better.” For the author and her husband, the loss has become …
Apr 13
I’d had a particularly bad morning; left work early; cried until I was dry. Then, as so often these days, I felt Ava’s soft-yet-strong arms go around my shoulders, her head press against my cheek, and she rocked me. We rocked as we so often did through the years when providing comfort to one another. …
Mar 23
This grief is so potent – a cutting of the fabric of the soul. A pain that begins in the head and bones and digestive system and penetrates to the mind, emotions, spirit. So much of my being fights, rebels at the truth: How can she possibly be dead?! It is NOT possible! It cannot …
Jan 28
Time heals, they say. In my experience, time does not heal exactly, but it does help some scar tissue form. It helps the wound from being so excruciating and bloody. My daughter died in May of 2008. In the first weeks and months I clung desperately to time. I counted days, then weeks, finally months, …
Jan 24
(Grief Journal entries are taken directly from the journal I started days after my daughter’s death. They are my raw grief set to paper. I am sharing them here in hopes that others who grieve will see themselves, and at the same time see that survival is possible.) 6-13-2008 The pain of my loss is …
Jan 16
(Grief Journal entries are taken directly from the journal I started days after my daughter’s death. They are my raw grief set to paper. I am sharing them here in hopes that others who grieve will see themselves, and at the same time see that survival is possible.) 6-1-2008 The feelings are many and nearly …
